Spiritual Ramblings from a Modern Day Husband and Dad

Month: November, 2012

Everybody Surrenders to Something

So give yourselves completely to God.” (James 4:7 NCV)

Ramblings from Connor’s dad When I consider spiritual surrender, I think back to Connor recognizing his need for Christ when he wa 8 years old. So often when they are that young, you are excited, but you also wonder if they really knew what they were doing.

Those of us who believe in eternity, heaven and hell, want to be as positive as we can for our kids. Nightly I thank God for the blessings He’s given us. I pray for our kids and their spiritual growth. As they have grown in to their teenage years, God has been good. They have pushed me to go on mission trips. They inspire me to try and walk the walk, while I talk the talk. They have given me some of my deepest conversations about our faith.

Last night we were talking about having doubt. Kris encouraged them to always come to us with any doubts or questions. We both talked about how we went through periods of doubt in our younger years. We had questioned our faith. We studied other religions. We both read books. And when the dust settled, we were even more confident of our faith and our salvation.

We reminded the kids that Christianity is not about a religion, it’s about a relationship. And to develop any relationship, you have to spend time with that individual. We won’t develop our relationship with God without reading His word, prayer, AND listening.

I remember the night I surrendered my life to Christ. Since that night it has been an ongoing struggle as the carnal Ted constantly wants to revert back to doing things his way. Selfishness starts to sneak back in. Pride rears its ugly head. If I don’t spend time every morning surrendering, again, to God, I quickly try to take things over. I start worrying about things that haven’t happened yet, and often never do. It’s so easy for me to mentally revert back to “being in control”. The mornings I remember to make an effort to surrender everything back to my Heavenly Father, are the days I hopefully have a family resemblance (ever so small) to my Savior….


Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. (Philippians 2:5-7)


Surrender Strengthens You

And He died for all so that those who live should no longer live for themselves, but for the One who died for them and was raised.” (2 Corinthians 5:15 HCSB)

Ramblings from Evan’s dad Last week Evan joined the only Jr. ROTC program in the country for homeschoolers. The retried Colonel is an incredibly likable Christian. In talking to him we found out he served two tours in IRAQ prior to his retirement. I am sure he has lots of stories he could tell.

The day Evan decided to join, Kris and I took him to get a haircut. This was not the typical haircut! Evan over the summer had grown a full mane looking like a model sporting a surfer-dude style from the coast. On top of that he had a nice stand of whiskers growing on his chin, and some long sideburns. But the words of the Colonel echoed in my ears, “hair just needs to be off the collar, off the ears, and above the eyes.” In Evan’s mind he might as well have said shave your head.

As we walked out from getting his PAINFUL hair cut, I hurt for Evan. I saw the mortified look he had from his new appearance. Yet when I asked him was he sorry he was going in to ROTC, his reply surprised me as he answered “No sir”.

I discovered Evan was still committed. Even after the pain of loosing his mane! At that moment my son impressed me even more because he did not let his pain keep him from the task ahead of him. And for a 15 year old boy, a drastic hair cut is true pain!

I hope that whenever God asks me to do something, even after weighing the cost, I will be like Evan willing to do it no matter how uncomfortable, inconvenient, costly, or painful it might be.

After all, Jesus certainly didn’t back down whenever He was asked!….


For none of us lives to himself, and none of us dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord. So then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s. (Romans 14:7-8)

Offering Yourself To God Is What Worship Is All About

Ramblings from Lacy’s dad – Today is my dad’s birthday. If he were still alive he would be 90. He was an unassuming man. We knew he loved us because he worked hard 6 days a week to provide for mom and my three sisters and I. He was a man of few words, preferring mom to do the talking. :). When called on at church though, he prayed the sweetest, humble, sincere prayers.

You could tell he knew his “Father”! Because he knew Him, he trusted Him. because he trusted Him, he had surrendered to Him.

The final 14+ years of his life he was forced to endure the effects of Parkinson’s, that was hard on everybody. My dad’s sweet humble spirit through that dark time was inspiring. He never stopped loving God. I think he embraced Him more everyday of those 14 difficult years.

I am confident I will see him again. I am thankful when I do, he will be in a new body!

Happy birthday Dad, I love you!


  • God says He loves you (Psalm 145:9)
  • God cares about every detail of your life (Matthew 10:30)
  • God gave you the capacity to enjoy all kinds of pleasure (1 Timothy 6:17)
  • God has good plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • God forgives you (Psalm 86:5)
  • God is patient with you (Psalm 145:8)
  • God sacrificed his Son for you (Romans 5:8)


Surrender Is The Heart Of Worship

Surrender evokes the unpleasant images of admitting defeat in battle, forfeiting a game, or yielding to a stronger opponent. The word is almost always used in a negative context.

Ramblings from Kris’ husband – The upcoming election is on my mind. The candidate I am rooting for has had many negative things said about him by the other side. Often I don’t think it’s true, and I feel like he is being maligned by his opponents’ side. Their supporters chime in and regurgitate what they hear, assuming it’s correct, often not verifying what they hear, in essence giving bad “advice”.

I think the same is true in the spiritual realm where again, there are 2 sides. The difference is that our election, although important, is temporary because it is only of this world. The spiritual, if I am correct, is eternal. When we are being drawn to God, the enemy will do all he can to discourage us.

We get bad advice from the misinformed.
You don’t want to do that! You are just being weak!
God doesn’t care!
He doesn’t love you!
You can do this yourself.
Your strong enough, you don’t need Him.

We are hearing this because the enemy understands that if we humble ourselves and tap into God, we can wreak havoc on his plans. I know there have been many times where pridefully I believed I didn’t need God and could do it myself. I was too proud to admit I made another mistake. 100% of the time I was wrong.

Now when I pray, I try to do so with me hands open, palms facing up. Mentally giving everything, including my precious family, to Him. It is in those prayers that I feel surrendered. Submitting everything to Him! The times I have that attitude in worship, at home or at church, are the times I am truly able to worship.

The times I am more worried about the way I look, or who see’s me, those are the times I get very little out of the worship. It’s obviously the speaker’s fault!…right?….


Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness. For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace. (Romans 6:13-14)

Work To Please God, NOT people

“Never be lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.” (Romans 12:11 NLT)

Ramblings from Connor’s dad – The other day I was talking with Connor about my mentor Dr. Jim Lyons. I was talking about his attention and enthusiasm with the most menial parts of surgery. He spent as much time sewing someone up, as he did opening them up and doing the surgery. He did it to honor God.

I also learned from him that no matter how hard the day, he came home and washed the dishes from where his wonderful wife would have cooked dinner. No matter how bad his day had been at the hospital. No matter how little sleep he had gotten the night before. He did it to be Christlike and honor God.

Many times Kris and I would have a function at our home and the Lyons’ would be in attendance. Inevitably, I would find Dr. Jim in the kitchen cleaning up, washing dishes, sweeping, whatever needed to be done. (No matter how long he had been up delivering babies. Or doing surgery. Or counseling and praying with couples who had lost a baby in pregnancy.) He did it because that is what Christ would have done, and to honor God.

Always with a smile!

Always with excellence!

When people look at me I want them to see Jesus…today…I’d settle for Dr. Jim!


Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. (Romans 12:11)

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